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Saturday, 20 August 2016

It's Okay To Go Against The Grain

I'll be honest, I am not a people's person at all. I never really have been and don't think I ever will be. I'm not very good at socialising, I'm not too interested in meeting new people and I very much like doing things alone.
I am very content with having a limited number of friends and choosing who I want to spend my time with and that is okay.
It is okay to be quiet and reserved and it's okay to not want to go out all of the time, just as long as you're happy with that then it is okay.  

absolutely hate small talk and pretending to be interested in people who aren't my type of people. I hope that doesn't come across rudely, I'm just being honest. It's okay to not get on with everyone you meet along your journey and out of choice, I choose to not put myself in that situation. Hence why I don't enjoy meeting new people in new friendship circles. I am happy with the people I have in my life right now and I am content. 

If you're an introvert like me - you may have had comments in the past saying that you are 'boring' or do not like to have fun etc, I've had those (from old friends that are no longer in my circle) - but it's whatever. Some people prefer to hangout with a film and a pizza instead of clubbing every weekend. Some people are tired after work in the week and would prefer to go home and chill than to get ready & go out for mid week drinks with friends. There is no rule saying every person needs to be equally as sociable as the next. The idea that everyone has to be this social butterfly is totally unrealistic and stupid.  

What I'm trying to say is, you don't have to be or do anything that society tells you to do. You do not have to go out and socialise all of the time. Spending time with just yourself is equally important as spending time with loved ones. It's okay to go against the grain. 


  1. For years I was the 'social butterfly' always out, always doing something, barely sleeping or eating a lot of the time. Now I'm quite content to go out every so often (I think I drink about once a month now) but spend most of my time with a select few people and I actually put thought and effort into mate dates, going out with my boyfriend etc. I'm also learning to love alone time, I used to hate my own company but now I can't wait to get time to myself for a bit!

    1. I went out a lot more when I were younger too! So happy that you can relate X

  2. I enjoyed this blog post. You are a beautiful sister and I wish more young women would learn to be alone and enjoy your own company. Thank you.


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