A Hair, Fashion & Lifestyle Blog - By Charleigh Victory

Saturday, 1 April 2017


Lately, I've been really thinking about how much my life has changed in the space of a few months. I spoke on my Snapchat (it's iamcharleigh if you want to add me) about when I suffered with depression and anxiety between the ages of 14-16 and how much I thought I was never going to get out of this funk.
Going through my first heartbreak, studying for my GCSE's and being in and out of doctor appointments, trying to find out what's wrong with me, affected me more than I realised at the time. I thought once I left school, all my problems would be solved and I'd be fine... it wasn't. College was even worse for me and I ended up quitting and dropping out. So there I was, 16, with no job, no income and no motivation for anything. Having social anxiety meant that I couldn't do anything involving strangers.. so can you imagine the state I got myself in, knowing I had to go for job interviews? I couldn't even do small things like getting on public transport. I honestly thought that I was worthless, I was never going to be successful and a waste of space. 

Fast forward 5 years and I have never been happier. Right now, I can truly say that I am the best version of myself. Of course I know that I am going to grow and evolve even more and I'm always looking to improve myself and my ability. But, for the first time in my life, I can finally see a future and it is bright. 

Have you guys heard of 'The Secret'? you probably have but if not, look it up. I've spoken about this before on my blog but it basically means "The Law of Attraction" - everything that we feel and everything that we think, we can bring it to life. The universe will give us everything that we've ever wanted, as long as you believe it will. So for the past 6 weeks or so, I've been putting this into practice and already my life has started to change. Please look it up if you haven't seen/read it already, it is both a documentary and a book. Right now, I feel really content and at my happiest, I know I've been happy for a while now but now.. it feels different. 

Naturally, I'm not a very positive person and I struggle with seeing the good in bad situations.
Life can make it seem like everything is really hard and sometime it is.. but life also has a way of turning things around. If you hold on and stay focused, you will get to where you want to be. We are allowed to make mistakes and we're allowed to make the wrong decisions, thats how we learn. None of us are perfect.

It is so easy to compare yourself to others, especially in this industry where it sometimes feels like its one big competition. I used to compare myself to other bloggers, people in general all the time. Some people also get things handed to them on a plate, others have to work really hard for it but do you know what? I would rather be the one who worked their butt off to change their life, rather than sit on it and watch people create a life for me. I'm a go getter and whatever I want or own, I've done that for myself, by myself.

So, the whole point of this post and the message I was trying to get out on snapchat is that whatever your current situation is, whether you're unhappy, you feel like you're in a dead end job, you don't know what type of career you want, you're struggling with money - it will change. Your 'right now' isn't your forever and please don't confuse a season, with a lifetime.



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